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“If Now Now, When?”

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If Not Now, When?

“If not now, when?”

This powerful quote led me to start wearing hijab.

By the way, this post is not *actually* about hijab. Keep reading to find how this relates to you personally.

In the summer of 2009, when MBMuslima first started, something clicked in my head. For several reasons, I was personally convicted that I should be wearing hijab.

I was convicted in wearing hijab but my initial decision was that I’d do it in the future. I didn’t know when. I just knew hijab was something I wanted to do and I wanted to do it in the future.

Too bad that makes absolutely no sense.

I took a double take at my thoughts and realized my conviction was not really a conviction unless I was going to act upon it immediately.

I didn’t start wearing hijab that same day, but I decided to start wearing it 2 weeks afterwards, for the first day of Ramadan 2009.

Cliché, I know.

Looking back, I shouldn’t have waited those 2 extra weeks. Mainly because I wasn’t guaranteed them.

I was 20 at the time. For some, my new discovery may seem to be an obvious obligation.

This was not the case, though. No one ever told me to wear it. My parents were practicing Muslims and always emphasized prayer. My mother wore hijab but started in her 30s. As practicing as my parents were, they actually expressed concern when I told them I wanted to do this.

Like I said at the start, this post is not actually about hijab…at all.

This post is about the human behavior called deferment.

AKA -> pushing things off
AKA -> procrastination
AKA -> thinking about things yet never acting upon them immediately
AKA -> overthinking with no measurable action
AKA -> dabbling in things but never putting both feet in

So, maybe my hijab story doesn’t resonate with you.

  • Maybe you think it’s annoying.
  • Maybe you’re a brother.
  • Whoever you are, it doesn’t matter.
  • You have your own story.
  • You have things that you’ve “been meaning to do”.

Bottom Line: You have your own deferments.

We all do.

Maybe you’ve been wanting to…

  • start a blog
  • pray fajr
  • spend more time with your family
  • pray sunnah
  • make more thikr
  • embrace your artistic side
  • learn Arabic
  • go back to school
  • eat healthier
  • heal a damaged relationship with a family member
  • do something special for a loved one
  • volunteer
  • write a book
  • read more Qur’an
  • start a business
  • hit the gym
  • travel the beautiful world

It doesn’t really matter what it is.

If it doesn’t leave your head, it will never happen.

I have a theory that the reason people hold back is fear…fear of failure ..fear of judgment..etc..

Even laziness is just fear in disguise.

But that’s silly because we should only fear Allah SWT. We should only be anxious about death. Now that’s easier said than done. But the good news is that human beings are highly trainable especially when given reminders.

To remind my forgetful self about this concept, I painted the following ayat on my wall about 2 months ago:

Then indeed, after that you are to die.
Then indeed you, on the Day of Resurrection, will be resurrected.
Surat #23 Al-Mu’minun (The Believers) Ayat 15+16

Awesome Quran Ayat Painted on Yasmins Wall

Remembering death is awesome because it puts you into action mode. Don’t be afraid of action. Another favorite quote of mine is “Action comes through clarity”. Stop trying to clarify before you act. It won’t work.

So I leave you with one task at hand.

Pick something you are currently deferring.

Post a comment right now and publicly declare what it is.

Just one thing.

Note: Please don’t defer your comment 😉

Then ask yourself, ‘If not now, when?’

Then remind yourself you are not promised another second.

With Love,

Your sister in Islam & Humanity,

I guess that makes me your double sister 🙂

-Yasmin

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18 Comments
  1. Do fajr early instead of the last fifteen minutes before sunrise!!

    • InshaAllah you will make this happen! What time do you go to bed?

  2. I enrolled in an online Diploma of Islam course and have been putting it off (laziness unfortunately). I really need to start completing the course and learn more and more about Islam.

    • Fatimah, Congrats on enrolling first of all. 🙂 Which school? What is one *SMALL* step you can do to start?

      • Thank you for your response. 🙂
        It’s called the Online Islamic University. It’s free to do the diploma and they also have a bachelor degree which I think is also free.
        One step I can take is to start the first section of the first module. InshaAllah it will be easy once I take that first small step. 🙂

  3. Assalamo aleykom … well there’s a lot i want to do , sometimes i kept doing “to do notes”, which sometimes i completed and sometimes i did not …

    • Medina, can you share one thing? 🙂

      • Hmmm for example a small goal- to read 5-6 books a month, i completed one month and the next month not….Its like i don’t do what i tell myself to do…Than i stop writing “to do” notes, and sometimes spend time without doing anything valuable, I don’t know how to make myself work full- schedule….

  4. Salaam – Go back to school for my Masters degree! With my career in full force its very difficult to find the time required to get into a grad school program.

    • Salaam Mahreen 🙂 What do you want to get a Masters in? What’s your current job? I know you can do it. I too have been there (full time job and while studying). Perhaps you can start at a part time basis, even if it’s just one class. 🙂

      • Thanks Yasmin! I would like to go back for my MBA – I am currently a senior analyst at Groupon 🙂 I’ve made the decision to begin part time — one step at a time iA!

  5. Get a new job and move to a larger Muslim community. I am a RN and I did apply for my license in New York. My husband and I don’t want to raise our son down here in Louisiana. I am in the process of waiting right now.

  6. writing a book… i get new ideas every day and sometimes even start writing, but then… i let my lame excuses stop me!

  7. I would like to begin my day with reading quran. I did it during Ramadhan and felt wonderful beginning my day with reading quran. Since then life/ shaitan/laziness/anything or everything has gotten in the way & I have not been doing it regularly.

  8. Ah this is so hard for me to answer because there are so many things I want to do …

    Read more Qur’an, pray more, go to the gym, eat healthier, travel more, be more spiritual. I hope I can do all of these things.

  9. Sister Salaams,

    Cam here via LinkedIn. I absolutely agree with and would like to add the following;

    All of us have dreams and aspirations; some never reach their potential because we never take those necessary steps. Even for those of us that do take the first step, it is not always with the decisiveness or conviction that is required to keep us on our path towards our goals.

    Humans by nature and especially the current society is looking for immediate success or results. If they happen to get negative feedback, their footstep get directed in a different direction.

    When you keep changing directions and lose focus on the goal, dissatisfaction and frustration sets in; now you have no set goal or object and you wonder aimlessly. Bitterness, anger, frustration are just some of the feelings that take over. Your standards of expectations are lowered and you reach a lull in your life.

    So before you ever reach that stage, set your goals and do not deviate, keep pushing and reaching for the stars. One step at a time. If you have Total Faith In HIM, You Will Never Lose Hope, NEVER!

    Was-Salaam

    Your Brother In Islam
    RJ

  10. Read more Qur’an and stop missing the Monday and Friday voluntary fasting.

  11. I am working on a book. I have been putting off compiling the chapters! Thank you for the inspiration to stop “deferring” it!

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